Adoption Update: Jesus and the Eye of the Tiger

The adoption home study finish line is creeping ever closer. I feel like I’m back at the eleventh mile of my Princess Half. So close, but still more work to be done.

Yes. All of this home study stuff definitely feels like running a half marathon. The beginning is exciting, the end is a bit painful, but finishing will feel like a Rocky-at-the-top-fist-pumping kind of moment.

Eye of the tiger, baby. Eye of the tiger.

We’ve finished all of our general “fill this out” paperwork and made all of the copies we need. Now we just have to get our physicals, finger printing, certifications, and do our book reports. {Yes, teacher, I said book reports.} And do our home visit. And our individual interviews. Okay, I seriously thought we were getting close until I just wrote all of that out. Push me back to about mile eight of my Princess Half. I must have stopped for a potty break. The good thing about this half marathon is that there aren’t balloon ladies breathing down my neck.

Eye of the tiger, baby. Eye of the tiger.

In adoption good news, however, our home study has been completely paid for! Praise the LORD! God has just shown us so much favor in this process and has continually reminded us that this is what he has called us to do and we can trust that HE is going to provide for it every step of the way. To turn in our formal application, we had to pay $500. This was before we officially started our fundraising, and I was just making and selling some growth charts to friends by word-of-mouth. Although we were definitely going to be able to swing the $500, handing over a big chunk of money is always a little nerve-racking…especially for something that is non-refundable, non-transferable, even if your application isn’t accepted. However, God laid it on some of our friends’ hearts to give generously for their growth chart, and they surprised us with a $1,000 check! God not only provided for our formal application fee, but also that preliminary application fee we had already paid of $50, with $450 left over to go towards our home study!

The next provision came one night at our adoption classes. Our adoption worker came to us when we arrived and said, “We had someone call this week and pay $1,400 towards your home study fee, so I just wanted to let you know that is sitting in your Bethany account as a home study credit.” Jaws dropped. Our home study fee is $7,500 and now we had $1,850 of that paid for, PLUS some from my growth chart sales and some generous donors on our YouCaring site!

Then, we had some friends ask us to double date with them one night at dinner. We love this couple, so we didn’t think twice about it and worked out a sitter for a night out for dinner and Starbucks. As soon as we sat down at our table, they went into a story about how the Lord had blessed them financially recently and they wanted to tithe off of what they were given. After praying separately about how that should look, they came back together and realized the Lord had given them the same answer: to give it to our adoption. Cue tears as they slide a check for $9,000 across the table to us. I was flabbergasted and so humbled. Thank you just didn’t seem like an appropriate enough response, but we just didn’t have the words in our vocabulary to express our gratitude. God, through their donation, had just fully provided for our home study, with $3,000-$4,000 left over to pay our finalization fees which is $14,500 {or more, if we have to cover the birth mother’s hospital bills, or our baby has extra medical bills due to complications}. I mean, is God good, or what?!

Yes, we have a lot more money to be raised and paid before all of this is said and done, and although it can be daunting to think about in a big, general since, we also have a peace that overcomes us in knowing that God has already proven himself trustworthy. He has provided for each step of the way before we even got there. We haven’t had to knock on several doors to know which one is right, He has left the right ones wide open so that all we have to do is get all of our paperwork done and ducks in a row and walk right on through to the next place he has called us.

There has been a passage that has been in the back of my mind the past couple of weeks. It is John 15 where Jesus is talking to the disciples about the vine and the branches. In summary, Jesus is explaining our relationship to God through the imagery of God being a gardener, Jesus being a vine, and us being branches on the vine. If we stay connected to Jesus, we will be strong, living, fruit-bearing branches, getting all we need from the vine. But apart from the vine, we will wither, fall to the ground, be picked up and thrown in to the fire with all of the other dead branches. Then in verses 7 and 8, Jesus says, “If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.”

Can I be honest with you? Sometimes I deal with a little bit of guilt that, in general, things always go so well for us as a family. Yes, we have had our share of sorrows, of pain, of financial, physical, and emotional turmoil, but it seems that the Lord always bring us through to the other side stronger, wiser, and more confident in the love and power that comes with knowing the name of Jesus. John 15:8 removes a lot of that guilt for me, because the fruit that comes from our lives is intentional and expected. In verse 16, Jesus even says that he appointed us and chose us to bear fruit. All for the Father’s glory.

Thanks be to God for all of the good that is in our lives, because every good thing comes from Him! {James 1:17} We just pray that as people around us see the blessings in our lives, they see a great big, generous God behind them, that wants to offer the same to all who call upon His name and are willing to live their lives connected to the vine. We are more than conquerers! {Romans 8:37} We can do all things! {Philippians 4:13}

Jesus and the eye of the tiger, baby. Jesus and the eye of the tiger.

With love, Malorie

3 thoughts on “Adoption Update: Jesus and the Eye of the Tiger

  1. Congrats! I happen upon this post today of all days. Today is actually the 1 year gotcha anniversary of our son adopted from Korea. We can’t imagine a time without him and know you will have that same feeling with your little one. I see you are knee deep in the arduous process. Good news is that with every paper filed it is one less to fill out. 🙂

    • Wow, Mary! So awesome to hear from someone on the other side of the finish line! Congrats on your son’s gotcha anniversary! Thanks for your encouragement. It goes a long way.

Leave a comment! Everyone loves comments!

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s